Hey men, do you have a painkiller of choice?

We have a decision to make in our lives. Do we mask our pain; try to forget it, numb it, push it back? Or men, is it time we face the fucker and deal with it?

I love painkillers…alcohol, weed, porn, masturbation, food, Netflix, Facebook, shopping, sleep. I’ve used them all to not deal with my pain. The problem is, at the end of the day, the source of the pain remains. The effect of my drug of choice wears off, and I again have a decision to make…feel the pain or run from it.

Running from your pain never increases the distance of it from you. Have you noticed? It may be quiet for a moment, but like any monkey on your back it starts squawking loudly again in your ear. 

What would happen if you took that monkey, sat it in front of you and asked it what it wanted, needed? You know it doesn’t want the pain killer, it just wants the pain to stop.

You and I can stop the pain when we are ready to get honest with ourselves about what it is that we really need? Is it love, respect, self-worth, value? I would be willing to bet it is this or some form of this. 

How do we get what we need?

This is key. You can’t get it from someone else first. It starts with you giving it to yourself. But guess what? It isn’t a monkey on our backs we are dealing with. Who we are dealing with is much more important, much more special.

Think of it like looking for the little boy inside of you who is lost and alone. Maybe he is out in the middle of nowhere sitting in an open field in the cold, or maybe he is hiding in the dark on a dangerous street of a big city. 

When you see him, what does he need?

You as an adult man can reach out and give that little boy what he needs. Is it love, protection, comfort, security, friendship? Whatever that boy needs or lacks, you can stop his pain by giving it to him.

This is the power we have as men…to protect and nurture the little boy inside. A small boy is powerless, without resources, without emotional intelligence and logic, and as a powerful adult man you and I can give the little boy inside us what he needs. The pain can stop.

Where do you start? Speak out loud what that pain is your little boy is experiencing. Acknowledge how you today, as a man, have power and resources to keep your little boy safe and free from that pain. Ask for help from other men as you move forward in this journey.

The high from truly loving yourself, loving your little boy inside, is better than the high from any drug out there men. This is a high I can recommend every man to experience. 

What is the pain of your little boy?

Author: Todd Gorishek

Todd is a certified Men’s Life Coach, an entrepreneur, a licensed healthcare professional, a husband, a father, and a world traveler. His mission is to co-create a strong and compassionate world by facilitating transformation through understanding, trust, and empowerment. He received his professional Life Coaching education from Newfield Network, a certified Life Coach training school, and is a member of the International Coach Federation.